Developmental Delays in Adaptive Strategies?

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Developmental Delays in Adaptive Strategies?

Postby makuranososhi » Sat Jun 05, 2010 5:26 am

As I have come to understand the challenges I have and continue to face, I realize that many of my coping methods and manners of social interaction were developed in high school and college. Now in my thirties, I am finding these failing or inadequate to the task and feel I am regressing in some areas where I had felt that strides had been made. Has anyone else has this realization/experience?
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Re: Developmental Delays in Adaptive Strategies?

Postby CelticRose » Sat Jun 05, 2010 5:46 am

No, but adults interact with each other differently than high school or college "kids", so I can see where you might be having difficulty if you continue to act younger than your age.

Maybe if you gave us specific examples we could help you through some of them?
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Re: Developmental Delays in Adaptive Strategies?

Postby alin0s » Sat Jun 05, 2010 11:33 am

i act younger than my age often
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Re: Developmental Delays in Adaptive Strategies?

Postby makuranososhi » Sat Jun 05, 2010 3:30 pm

It will take me some time to quantify and explain better; I will try to find some quick examples. One might be that in conversation, I tend to revert to old or familiar topics, or use the same vernacular that I did twenty years ago. While I spent time trying to find ways to conceal stim-like behavior, people I knew in HS comment often when we encounter each other how strangely consistent and exact my mannerisms are in comparison to back then. It's like I learned a certain set of coping skills and strategies, and now they aren't as effective. I learned that, given certain criteria, some reactions and responses could be predicted with a limited amount of certainty... now, I feel like the channel changes mid-stream, and I've gone from watching familiar cartoons to a 1960's French melodrama w/o subtitles or dubbing - just lost. As I said, I am not able to articulate exactly what I want to say right now, but will attempt to do so in the near future. I think that I spent over ten years teaching HS only reinforced that behavior.
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Re: Developmental Delays in Adaptive Strategies?

Postby CelticRose » Sat Jun 05, 2010 8:32 pm

Well, you can always learn new vernacular by spending time on the internet or watching television. I've been able to keep up with the latest slang terms a lot more easily since I've been on the internet.

I wasn't aware that one's mannerisms were supposed to change over time. :huh: Seems to me that's the other person's problem, not yours. I should think that most people wouldn't notice since they haven't known you long enough, and those who have known you for a long time should realize that's just how you are.
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Re: Developmental Delays in Adaptive Strategies?

Postby makuranososhi » Sat Jun 05, 2010 9:33 pm

My vernacular is relatively fixed; while I do tend to integrate vocabulary within individuals, that doesn't always translate into broader usage. I wasn't aware either, but the number of comments like "man, that's eerie - that's just how you (fill-in-the-blank)ed in HS/JHS/etc. For those who don't know me, I apparently just seem out of date... probably why I do well in antiques.
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